Choosing Your Reality
Some people live life by default. They
experience their reality merely by allowing
events, situations, and conditions to dictate
their reactions, responses, and emotions-
which in turn determine their reality for
them. Essentially, they are pulled along
through life by an ear. Defaulting in this
way can be dangerous. It is far safer to
claim rather than be claimed.
Claim your good by living like Pollyanna.
Find good in everything like Pollyanna
would, and you remain in charge of your
life, making it as pleasant as you would like
it. Claim your bad like Pollyesther would,
and you also remain in charge of your life,
making it as miserable as you would like it.
Both twin sisters are in charge of their lives,
but lead very different lives, based on
choices made. Unlike either of them, if you
default to whichever way the world pulls
you by your ear, then you get the luck of the
draw, besides a stretched out ear.
Just as a Pollyanna personality always
finds something to praise, a fault fmder of a
Pollyesther personality always finds
something to condemn, proving that reality
is only that which we choose to perceive.
Choose to see goodness, and goodness is
seen in even the worst situations. Choose to
see badness, and badness is seen even in the
Fault finders are such super sleuths that
they always come up with the evidence they
are seeking. Finders of blessings can be just as astute detectives. The difference is simply a matter of focus, and we each have our hand on the focusing knob.
Like a geologist, we can be a fault finder;
or, like a biologist, we can find what we
want to see on the microscope slide by
adjusting the focus. Tweak the focus. knob
just a bit, and some things blur and disap-
pear while other thngs come into our field
of vision with brilliant clairty. Just because
we throw some things out of focus does not
mean we are burying our heads in the sand
and denying reality. We know what is on
the microscope slide, and we know which
part of it we want to experience as our
By living the Unity way of life,
Pollyannas adjust our view to comply with
the highest and best. We have enough self-
respect and a realistic enough sense of
worth not to take the bad with the good.
Pollyesther does the reverse; she does not
take the good with the bad. She gathers
thorns while her sister gathers roses.
Coming from the same gene pool affects
neither sister as much as do their attitudes.
So it is with each and every one of us.
Pick your reality before another one gets
assigned to you, because not to decide is to
decide for default-and where else would
faults be easier to find than in default? You
are worthy of better, and living the Unity
principles will equip you also to be
deserving of better, but hey, it's entirely
your free choice.
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